I thought I’d try something a little different this week and do a bit of an A to Z of motherhood for the first year or so. Basically all I know at the moment. It contains some ramblings, lessons learned and some tips. You may or may not find it useful 🙂
(When it was just us we went on adventurous trips to Iceland and other such places)
My A to Z of motherhood for the first year…
A is for arms
I’ve realized the following – Who needs weights when you are constantly lifting and carrying a little person day and night?
B is for boobs
At this point I think most people in Toronto have seen my boobs. I used to care, but now not so much.
C is for colds
The first time Chloe got a cold felt like the end of the world. I wanted to go to the emergency room immediately. The other half had to talk me down from the level of crazy I was at.
D is for doubt
There were plenty of days this past year where I doubted my ability to be responsible for this little person who was now a part of our family. But then things just click and you realize you are a parent who (most of the time) knows what they are doing.
E is for Ergo
The ergo carrier has been my secret weapon over the past 13 months. We’ve used it for mom/baby workouts, short walks, in airports, to walk to and from daycare now and much more.
F is for fun
I never realized how fun it would be to have a baby. They don’t really do much the first six months and then all of a sudden they turn into real little people with personalities. There will be lots of photos taken. Even multiple photos of the same things.
G is for Google
All of a sudden I found myself Googling things like ‘is it possible for your nipples to fall off’ and other such crazy things after Chloe was born. I also found myself taking the advice of people in discussion forums who couldn’t spell to save to their lives. The Internet is a dangerous place to be for new moms.
H is for homemade
Before giving birth I was one of those people who was going to make EVERYTHING my baby ate. Who was I kidding? These packs were developed for a reason.
I is for Instagram
I swore that my Instagram wouldn’t turn into a feed of my baby. It did. I couldn’t help myself.
J is for jealousy
Sometimes I have to admit that I do get jealous of people who can just go out to dinner or drinks on a whim.
K is for kindness
The so-called ‘mommy wars’ that I see online need to stop. As mothers we all just need to be kinder to one another and know that we are all doing the best job that we can do for our families. No more finger pointing.
L is for long days
Someone told me that the first year of motherhood can be summed up with the following quote – sometimes the days feel long, but the year goes by fast. Or something along those lines. So true. There were some days when I was literally counting down the seconds until the husband came home, but then all of a sudden it was her 1st birthday.
M is for mom
There really is no better feeling in the world than being Chloe’s mom. Even in the moments of doubt and bad days. Motherhood is definitely a rollercoaster of ups, downs, highs and lows.
N is for naive
While I knew having a baby was going to change our lives, I have to admit I was pretty naive about this. I had a long to-do list that I was going to take care of on maternity leave (e.g. map out my career plans and take my wedding dress to get cleaned finally). None of this happened.
O is for opinions
Everyone seems to have an opinion when you have a baby. Even random strangers will stop you (usually when you have a screaming baby on your hands) to let you know what you should be doing differently. Ignore and walk away.
P is for poop
Other parents told us that we’d be talking all the time about poop. I didn’t believe them. I was wrong. Chloe’s bowel movements occupy way too much of our daily conversation.
Q is for quiet
I’m realizing that quiet is kind of a thing of the past with a one-year old in the house. She’s always on the move and squealing.
R is for registry
Most of the items I put on my baby registry were things I thought I needed/were cute. I’d recommend that any moms-to-be out there think more practically than I did.
S is for struggle
These days I’m finding that it is a constant struggle to find balance between work, home, friends and taking time for myself.
T is for tears
I’ve cried this year because I’m tired, happy, sad, frustrated, scared. I’ve also had mini tantrums when I can’t go workout. We all have our thing.
U is for underwear
There is nothing sexy or fun about post-birth underwear. It is time to hit up this store in an effort to rethink my undergarments.
V is for vulnerability
I just finished reading my first book since before Chloe was born (a small miracle) and there was a quote that really resonated with me: “…pregnancy and the vulnerabilities of motherhood have offered me yet another window on humanity, yet another channel of understanding.”
W is for wine
You will need it. Trust me.
X is for x-citement
Seeing Chloe hit milestones and do new things is pretty exciting. I’ll always remember the first time she rolled over multiple times in a row. I was not expecting that at the time. Yes, I know cheated on this one, but I needed something for ‘X’.
Y is for you
As a mom, you no longer exist as you used to. I’m Chloe’s mom. I’ve realized over the past 13 months that it is important to still carve out time for you. To be a happy mom, you need a break at times.
Z is for zzzz
To the people that told us to sleep before the baby arrived – you are giving the worst advice ever. You can’t bank sleep. If you ever hear me tell someone this please pinch me. To all the new parents out there, you will sleep again. It will be a different type of sleep, but you will sleep again.